Wedding planning meltdown

I had a mini-meltdown yesterday about the lack of wedding plans accomplished. All I want to do is throw a nice party at a house in Vegas on 7-7-7. We don't need a chapel, we already have an officiant, and I'm reluctant to have it at a golf course because of the weather. And the best country clubs and golf courses are already taken anyway, I've looked. I'm going with John to Vegas tonight and maybe I can find some information tomorrow, but we also have to look for a place to live from now through the World Series of Poker (ends July 17) so that has to be ticked off, too. And I'm moving house by myself as John will be in Monte Carlo.

There's my vent. My friend Cotie, who has a location and dress and save the date cards for her August wedding was real sweet the other night. After replying "No, I didn't have this or that" to many wedding questions she asked me, she finally said, "You have a city, that's something." It was too cute, and provided about three seconds of comfort.

All this said, Last Minute Leo is a master at making things happen. I can do this. I know I can. Dan's dad was a bit concerned yesterday when I had little to reply to his questions about booking reservations when we didn't have anything secured, "There's no beach for you to just fall back on." I guess that's the thing about being older. I can make do. Can't I? John and I have pretty drastic tastes when it comes to this wedding and we're both doing a fairly acceptable job of compromising. It won't be a traditional wedding. And everything  one would take for granted about a wedding like  having a bridal party, or a first dance song, or dancing at all—is on the bargaining table.

The good news is that we will be able to afford to have a wedding. My whole life I thought I wouldn't be able to afford a wedding at all because of the tradition of the bride's family paying for it. And that it would be a $5,000 jobbie in a park as a potluck picnic at best.  John and I made a reasonable budget for the wedding, small but not spartan. And having the new job means that I will be able to pay my half of it. This is something that I am very thankful for. That we can afford to throw  a decent party as soon as we find the place...

Just wish me luck this weekend and next week. We've got our group room sales nearly worked out and I'll at least try and send that out this weekend so people can start booking their rooms. Good grief.

CURRENT: Pasadena, CA
NEXT: Las Vegas in five hours.

Comments

[BJ Nemeth]

Whenever I had stress about a big exam in college, I would collect myself and remember what was really important in life. I'm not even talking about things like friends and family -- I would start my list at the bare necessities:

1. Air
2. Warmth
3. Water
4. Food

Judging things from that perspective, how I do on an Economics final ranks down in the 1,000s.

Your wedding will be fine, because you already have the basics.

Bride? Check.
Groom? Check.
Officiant? Check.

All you need is a witness and a place to stand, and you'll have a wedding. The most important thing is that you and John love each other. Everything else is details, and most of them will work themselves out.

[Jen Leo]

BJ! Nice to see your name in the comments, and wonderful to hear from you. I like that *you're* giving me the positivity speech. Thanks and I hope you're well.

[Poker Shrink]

I say just make one small change and you are golden. How does 7-7-8 sound?

[Michele Lewis]

Jen
I married my husband in Vegas then went home to plan another wedding in five weeks. I was stressed beyond belief.
This summer I will celebrate my 10th anniversary. I look back and what I remember most is looking in my husbands eyes, my closest friends & family, how tasty the cake was & leaving.

As for 777. Sounds to me like someone decided to write something nasty because they had difficulty writing about something positive. 777 sounds perfect.

You're a woman and your wedding day is a rite of passage no matter how much some deny it. And then...you move on to the next passage...whatever that may be. That being said...I completely stressed about my wedding. Good luck and enjoy the process.

[Carmen]

Good Luck!!

[Leigh]

If you need a house in vegas for anything you guys can use ours (we don't know where it is or what it looks like yet)....xoxo hang in - love is all you need.